Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Mary Louise

June 26, 1937 - Feb. 8, 2008
Mom often told me the details of the day of my birth -- not how many hours she was in labor or how bad the pain was or whether or not drugs were administered. But I heard often how it was the coldest day on record -- temperatures dipping to well-below zero. How even though I was a big baby -- weighing in at 8 pounds, 10 ounces and bigger than my three older brothers -- the doctors and nurses couldn't get my temperature up, and I was placed in an incubator. I wonder now if this is the reason I feel cold all the time.

It never occurred to me that my birth may have been difficult for my mom or that her pregnancy was anything but easy. I don't know if it ever occurred to her. It wasn't like her to complain or to speak of her children as burdens. I believe we were a source of pride. But she was never one to brag, not about her kids, not about herself. She was self-deprecating, to a fault. But she was talented -- she knit, she sewed, she made the most amazing cakes that were like works of art. At the age of 70, she was learning to use a computer.

I wasn't ready to say goodbye. I can only hope that when I become a mom, I do as good a job as she did.

reposted from Rambling Pam, Thursday, April 24, 2008


  1. What a wonderful mother you had. And I have no doubt with a role model like that, you're going to be just as wonderful!


  2. Your mom was indeed talented, and I'm honored to be the owner of one of the many lovely bookmarks she made. I think of her often when using it. You're well on your way to being as talented -- and memorable -- as her. It's sweet to see the warm place she keeps in your heart.